Good friends, warm fuzzies.
Hello I am a 24 year old female person near Baltimore. I am an AV technician. I like the internet I guess.
Good friends, warm fuzzies.
Then there’s the simple fact that therapy costs money – sometimes lots of money – and I’ve never had expendable income; furthermore, because of other emotional problems I found it hard to hold down even a part-time job. On top of that, I come from a middle-class family, but my political sense of the world gives me a sense of guilt and shame about that privilege. I held a certain degree of hatred for therapy because I saw it as a rich people’s indulgence, a sign of bourgeois decadence and yuppie lifestyle. On top of all of that, going to therapy – even if I didn’t have all these other reservations and emotions – meant I would also have to rearrange my routine, maybe cut back on or drop out of some activities that I enjoyed in order to create enough time in my schedule for weekly sessions.
i think i am actually going to write my own zine called “how to get away with rape” and take this entire thing apart point by point (via lonelyapron)
I Wanted to Stop Raping People but I Wanted to Play Skyrim More: One Man’s Story
Jesus fucking Christ.
And you know, this is why this kind of wank feminism is not just counterproductive but insidious. At some point, it really is about your ability to hurt people, not your ability to feel bad about it. These justifications are just, I mean, sociopathy, this guy obviously doesn’t care about anyone but himself at all, but even if he were fumbling towards some sense of wrongdoing…it’s not for him to handle. “Accountability” processes should never, ever, ever privilege the participation of the abuser over the safety and dignity of the victim. He doesn’t get to set the pace, even assuming he’s not a monster.
WOW IT’S SO GOOD THAT [POPULAR PUNK BAND] PUBLICLY PROMOTED THIS ZINE AND THEN DUG IN THEIR HEELS AND REFUSED TO APOLOGIZE TO SURVIVORS FOR IT!! I MEAN, CAN YOU IMAGINE NOT PROMOTING AND DEFENDING THIS PIECE OF WRITING?? CAN YOU?? IMPOSSIBLE.
you know I felt SO guilty about asking R to go to therapy as a form of accountability (as the entirety of their accountability — it was all I asked of them, that and to not contact me) because I knew it would be a financial hardship for them. I felt so guilty about it that I let them instead do something like therapy with a non-professional friend who had kind of relevant experience, who proceeded to fuck it up completely. I know this because I asked him to stay in touch with me about R’s progress, so I found out that he did inexcusable things like share my emails to him with R without asking me! And he told me really upsetting things all the time that he should have known better than to tell me! Like that R’s then-current partnerS (lol) found their practice of good consent “refreshing” (I still have a hard time believing that one, but let me tell you about how much that made me feel like the sexual abuse was all my fault). I also found out that they spent one of their sessions talking about how “difficult” I was to communicate with. Also he would not respond to my emails for months and forget about or cancel his appointments with R all the time to do homework. :) :) :)
omg i didn’t see gus had gotten to this before i did, like minds(via rgr-pop)
Wtf is this from its terrible